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Helicopter Parents Are Raising Unemployable Children

·         Marcia Sirota Author, speaker, coach and MD, The Huffington Post. 5/2/2017

Helicopter parents are in the news a lot these days. These are the parents who can't stop hovering around their kids. They practically wrap them in bubble wrap, creating a cohort of young adults who struggle to function in their jobs and in their lives. Helicopter parents think that they're doing what's best for their kids but actually, they're hurting their kids' chances at success. In particular, they're ruining their chances of landing a job and keeping it. (Paragraph 1)

The thing about helicopter parents is that they don't want their kids to get hurt. They want to soften every blow and cushion every fall their kids may encounter along the way. They want to save them from what they perceive to be the pain and suffering of daily life. The problem however, is that these over-protected kids never learn how to deal with loss, failure, pain and disappointment; inevitable aspects of everyone's life. Over-protection makes it nearly impossible for these young people to develop what psychologists call ‘frustration tolerance’. Without this important psychological attribute, young people enter the workforce at a great disadvantage. (Paragraph 2)

What is the problem with this parenting style?

The problem with helicopter parents is that they do too much for their kids. This leads to young adults who grow up lacking healthy work ethics as well as the basic skills they need to survive in any organization. Without this work ethic and these necessary skills, the young person won't be able to accomplish many of the workplace tasks expected of them. (Paragraph 3)

In addition, helicopter parents tend to over-protect their kids, depriving them of any meaningful consequence for their actions. As a result, they miss out on the opportunity to learn valuable life lessons from the mistakes they make which would contribute to their ongoing development and emotional intelligence. (Paragraph 4)

Unfortunately, helicopter parents prefer to protect their kids from any conflicts they might have with their peers, and when these kids grow up, as a consequence they not only expect to get their own way all of the time, but they are often unable to resolve difficulties between themselves and a colleague or supervisor. (Paragraph 5)

Psychologists and behavioural specialists firmly believe that people are only able to solve problems by trying things, making mistakes, learning, failing and then trying again. This process builds confidence, competence and self-worth. However, helicopter parents prevent their children from developing all of these important attributes which are necessary for career success. (Paragraph 6)

In addition to this, another characteristic of a helicopter parent is they believe their children should win at everything. They think that everyone who competes in a sports competition should get a trophy and all students should get a passing grade, even if their assignment is overdue or poorly conceived, yet in a functional workplace, there's only one winner of a competition, and only high-quality work is rewarded. If children grow up thinking that no matter what they do, they'll win, they won't realize that they actually have to work hard in order to succeed. (Paragraph 7)

These spoiled young people will be devastated when they keep losing competitions, blowing interviews or getting fired from their jobs. They won't understand how much effort is actually required in order to be a winner in the work world. These young people lack competence and motivation from never having had to work through a problem or complete a project all by themselves. They expect others to do these things for them, just as their parents always have. In essence, they can't think or act for themselves. (Paragraph 8)

The biggest issue is that helicopter parenting instills a set of bad attitudes in kids. They grow up with great expectations of success, unrelated to how much time or energy they invest, and they feel deserving of preferential treatment, neither of which go over well with their colleagues or bosses. In a job interview, prospective employers might be put off by the overly entitled attitude of a young person, or be alarmed by their lack of basic skills. (Paragraph 9)

The young person's general aura of ignorance and incompetence, combined with expectations of immediate and substantial rewards unrelated to performance are likely to deter any future employer. Even in smaller ways, helicopter parents cripple their kids. The adult child of helicopter parents might for example, take a coffee break and then walk out of the break room, not having cleaned up their mess or washed out their cup. You can see how this would create resentment among their colleagues. (Paragraph 10)

These young people expect "someone" to clean up after them, in the same way that their mess was always cleaned up when they were kids. They don't see that there's no-one following them around anymore, cleaning up their mess, whether physical, interpersonal or professional. (Paragraph 11)

In an article by Barb Nefer, he explains that "millennials are getting hit hard by depression and that one in five young workers has experienced on-the-job depression, compared to only 16 per cent of Gen X." Nefer goes on to say that according to a report from Bensinger, DuPont & Associates, millennials have impaired functioning on the job and higher rates of absenteeism, as well as more conflict and incidents of getting written up," all of which "can impede job performance." (Paragraph 12)

According to an article by Brooke Donatone in the Washington Post (2013) written for the "Journal of Child and Family Studies”, college students who experienced helicopter parenting also reported higher levels of depression." The Washington Post article also reports that "intrusive parenting interferes with the development of autonomy and competence. So helicopter parenting leads to increased dependence and decreased ability to complete tasks without parental supervision." (Paragraph 13)

Sometimes the best way to "be there" for your child is not to be.

It's clear that helicopter parenting is contributing to a growing rate of depression among young people as well as an inability to function optimally in the workplace. If you're a parent who wants your children to have career success as adults, you need to be aware of any tendencies toward helicopter parenting in yourself and your co-parent. (Paragraph 14)

Loving your child means guiding them, protecting them and supporting them. It doesn't mean smothering them, over-protecting them or doing so much for them that they never learn to think on their feet, cope with challenges or deal with disappointment and failure. In fact, psychologists believe that the most loving thing you can do as a parent is take a step back and let your child fall down, flail about and figure things out on his or her own. Sometimes the best way to "be there" for your kid is not to be there for them. This is how you enable them to develop confidence, competence, self-worth and emotional intelligence. (Paragraph 15)

Young people today need parents who support them in becoming functioning adults. This means less hovering and bubble-wrapping of kids and more empowering them to do things for themselves, figure things out for themselves and learn how to cope with difficulties, all by themselves. (Paragraph 16)

Explanation / Answer

Helicopter Parents Are Raising Unemployable Children

In this paragraph, the author is trying to say that the type of parenting that is being done in today’s world is not really benefiting the children, rather it is creating a culture amongst the children which is taking their life and values to a fairly unhealthy and uncompetitive spirit. Since there is so much protection that is given by the parents to the children, always showing them the positive sides of life, always encouraging the, to win, with the thought of boosting their self confidence , such that their children would not see failures and be underconfident and indulge into abuse and fall into depression. But while doing this, they forget to put the basic values in their children, which would not only help them in competitions but would also help the, to face the downfalls in life. As is evident, a person who fails, they learn from the mistakes that he made which caused him to fail and he becomes better. This basic understanding or value is missing from these children due to the over protection of these parents, and cause these children to fail miserably, with coping capabilities as close as nil and ultimately indulging into the pool of depression and low self esteem. What parent do to protect them, is what is actually the cause of much greater problems. Hence on any job interview failure, or hardships, the child is not able to cope up, giving rise to children who are unemployable. Also, they don’t even develop the aptitude to compromise and adjust.

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