Guides to Speech and Action 1. State suggestions or directions in a positive rat
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Guides to Speech and Action
1. State suggestions or directions in a positive rather than a negative form.
A positive suggestion is one which tells a child what to do instead of pointing out what he is not to do. A positive direction is less likely to rouse resistance. It makes help seem constructive rather than limiting. When we make suggestions in a positive way, we are giving the child a good social tool to use. To put directions positively represents a step in developing a more positive attitude toward children's behavior inside ourselves.
4. Avoid trying to change behavior by methods which may lead to loss of self-respect such as shaming a child or labeling behavior "naughty," "selfish".
Neither children nor adults are likely to develop desirable behavior patterns as the result of fear, shame, or guilt. In learning constructive ways of guiding behavior, out first step is to eliminate destructive patterns: Gestures, expressions, and tones of voice words which pass judgment. A child will be helped if we accept her as she is and try to make it possible for her to find some success, rather than if we reprove her because she does not meet our standards.
5. Avoid motivating a child by making comparisons between one child and another or by encouraging competition.
Children who are encouraged to be competitive are very likely to quarrel more with one another. In competition someone always loses and is likely to feel hurt and resentful. Competition does not build friendly and social feelings. It also creates problems within the child. Neither constant success nor too many failures prepare a child for what he will meet later in a competitive world. Avoid competitive kinds of motivation until children have developed ego strength and can balance failures with success.
6. Redirect the child by suggesting an activity that is related to her own purposes or interests whenever possible.
We will be more successful in changing the child's behavior if we attempt to turn the child's attention to an act which has equal value for her. Suggestions for acting differently will take into account the different meanings in behaviors - For example: Throwing (balls instead of sand), vigorous play (raking leaves instead of running wildly). Redirection should help the child face her problem by showing how it can be met, not by diverting her.
7. The effectiveness of a suggestion or a direction may depend largely in its timing.
The timing of a suggestion may be as important as the suggestion itself. Advice given too soon deprives the child of a chance to try to work things out for himself. A suggestion made too late may have lost any chance of being successful. Through experience one can increase one's skill in giving a suggestion at the moment when it will do the most good.
8. Avoid making models in any art medium for the children to copy.
Art is valuable because it is a means of self-expression. The young child needs avenues of expression. Her speech is limited. Her feelings are strong. If she has models for her, she will be less likely to be creative and more likely to be limited in trying to copy. Art then becomes only another area where she strives to imitate the adult who can do things much better.
9. Give the child the minimum of help in order that he may have the maximum chance to grow in independence, but give help when the child needs it.
Children's self-confidence is increased by independent solving of problems. There are all kinds of ways to help a child help himself rather than stepping in and doing it for him. In leaving the child free to satisfy his strong growth impulse to be independent, we support his feeling of confidence in himself: "I can do this all by myself." To let the child do things for himself does not mean denying his requests for help. When a child asks for help, we listen to his request and answer it in a way that will make him less helpless and dependent. Confidence in self is based on a foundation of trust in others.
10. Make your directions effective by reinforcing them when necessary.
A verbal suggestion, even though given positively, may not be enough in itself. A glance at the right moment, moving nearer a child, a verbal suggestion, actual physical help are all techniques. One common fault of parents and teachers is using too many words. Have confidence in the child's ability to hear and respond. But add different techniques together until successful rather than depend solely on words.
Assingment..
Using the "guide to speech and action" (list above) give (examples of each ) of situations where the guide is used or misused.
a. State whether the example is a use or a misuse of the guide.
b. If it is a misuse, explain why and state what the adult could have said/or done instead that would have been appropriate.
Here is an example how should it be done:
Guide #1: State Directions or Suggestions in a Positive Form
A child about three years old was running up one of the aisles in a grocery store looking for cereal. His mother yelled, "Don't run in the store! You get over here!" The child turned around but kept running.
Misuse of the guide.
Correction: The child's mother could have said "Please walk in the store," to inform the child of the desired behavior.
Explanation / Answer
4) It is often termed as labelling. If make use of words such as troublesome or self centred where the child is absolutely not knowing the meaning of these words and is behaving as he wants to. The child starts behaving accordingly, if we raise voice the child also raises the voice. If we talk in quiet way the child responds accordingly. The child may have complex in front of other children if they are constantly termed by any negative expressions.
5) I agree with this statement as comparisions should never be made as each child is different and has his/her wayof working with things and has different IQ. Showing it is as positive eg is good, so that a kid can learn something out of it. But motivation made out of comparison latsts only temporary that too out of feelings like jealousy etc. Eg, comparing between children with school grades or marks etc.
6) Direction child's activity is not always easy thing, parents need to study the behaviour of child and give them appropriate resources. As the in the eg, even hide and seek can bring lots of fun instead of running haphazardly or instead of messing up house, give them a paper and crayon and asking them to do mess on paper.or helping in household chores
7) I cannot agree to much extent of imitating art as it can be definatley the medium thriugh which kids can learn speech or language easily, parents can then re direct them . The creativity always has vast scope in life and is nnot restricted when the kids imitate. I have often seens kids imitating cartoons and increasing vocab, some good behaviour as well as some mischevious behaviour.
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